Journey to Amanda and Beyond

Dance Production - China the Beautiful

2012-01-25T08:22:00.000-06:00

2012 Dance Production: China the Beautiful from the mountains to the prairies

Life gets really busy with 3 girls. All 3 dance with the CAAM Chinese Dance Theater. Last weekend we did the annual Chinese New Year production at a local college's auditorium. 2 public performances on Saturday night and Sunday afternoon, and then 2 shortened performances on Tuesday where local schools are bussed in for a field trip to see the production and get exposed to some Chinese culture. There are a couple of local Chinese immersion schools that also bring students.

I'm a dance mom - class coordinator for Jessica's class of 7th & 8th graders. The class performed 3 dances this year and it was quite a bit more work being in charge of 3 dances, 7 costumes and multiple hair changes. Jessica was in the prelude and finale and also the papercutting girls. Anna somehow ended up in three dances as well - the prelude and finale, and also hot peppery girls. Amanda was also in the finale. So all three of my girls were in the same dance (Finale, Finale). Very emotional for me to see all three of them on stage together in the same dance.

Here are some pictures. I didn't get Anna in her peppery girls outfit unfortunately. The girls started practicing for this production a year ago. We had weekend runthroughs for 2 weeks prior to last weekend. Last weekend, we had a tech rehearsal Friday, then practically lived at the auditorium the rest of the weekend. Very beautiful performances and a lot of wonderful comments. But, it is exhausting and I'm glad we're done for now.

Update

2011-08-08T09:19:00.003-05:00

Wow, I can't believe how time flies! It's been almost 4 months since we first saw Amanda and it seems like so much longer.

Amanda/YangYang has come a long way. The first Sunday we were home, we went to dance class even though it was Easter. It seems like every mom, dad, grandparent, and child that spoke both Mandarin and English were at dance class. They loved Amanda. And it had the effect on her I had hoped it would - that I wasn't trying to take away everything she knew and that I did know people who could speak her language and keep her connected with her culture. When we went home that day, she decided to tackle her fear of the dogs and cat. She now loves them all. And who wouldn't love live stuffed animals?!! And after some initial fears on their part, Lucy, Sophie, and Jinny now love Amanda as well!

Within 2-3 months, Amanda was understanding pretty much everything we say. Sometimes I have to find another word or way to describe things, but now she is hardly doing any pantomime to get her point across. She is speaking sentences.

She loves the extended family ("family - good" is what she said after the first time meeting them). We've been to dance recitals, concerts, camping, vacation bible school, school shopping, ride the bus night. All fun things.

I would say Amanda's favorite activity is riding her bike or scooter. She's definitely got a lot of energy. I call her the Engergizer Bunny. She keeps going and going. Jessica says "she never stops talking!" I keep telling her that YangYang is 5. She's doing exactly what she's supposed to be doing.

She's had a few breakdowns as any 5 year old would. The kicking and screaming goes on until we are both exhausted. The last time, I told her I loved her all the time. All of a sudden she goes "WHAT?!?!?!" So I explained that I loved her in the morning, during the day and at night. I loved her when she was sad, mad, happy, excited. All the time.

She loves outdoors and activities. She likes to jump - around the house, on the bed, from the dresser to the bed. I know she'd be great at gymnastics, but I've decided we need to stick with dance - Chinese dance. She has watched Jessica and Anna at dance practice and now Jessica is teaching her some of the stretching and gymnastics part of dance. We've also found the other girls old dance outfits and shoes. She's excited about starting.

She also loves princesses, dressing up pretty especially in the princess costumes we saved, and watching Disney movies. I keep kicking myself for selling so many of the things I sold just last summer at my garage sales. I guess I had given up on believing I'd get Amanda. Sometimes I still can't believe she's actually home!

I still have to stop myself from looking at the waiting child list. Long-term habits are hard to break. I guess I've been planning for and/or waiting for my kids for the last 15 years or so and I now need some new long-term goals so I can move on.

Saturday

2011-04-23T14:02:00.002-05:00

Yesterday and today have been good days. I guess I'm not as scarey as the dogs are. Amanda slept in my bed the first night and let me carry her to the bathroom when she needed to go. The next morning I let her know I was going to let the dogs outside and she hid on the other side of the bed. Later in the day, she was fine with me holding one dog at a time in the same room as her. She actually pet the cat in the evening. No tantrums. She started pointing to things so I could tell her what we call them and she was going through the stickers and the First Thousand Words book. She decided to sleep in the bedroom she shares with Anna last night. She's the first to adjust to local time. The rest of us are all off kilter.

This morning Anna claimed she hadn't slept most of the night and then fell asleep on my bed. Jessica felt warm yesterday and slept most of the day and was up way too late, so was also asleep. So I decided to see if Amanda would go to the post office and Target with me while sitting in the car seat. No problems on either front. She hopped right in the car seat and enjoyed her trip to Target with me talking the whole time. She didn't have any trouble putting everything she saw into the cart, but didn't protest at all when I took things back out.

I'm waiting for a call letting me know my tire is fixed - it went flat while we were gone. Then tonight another friend and her daughters are coming for a short visit to meet Amanda. We'll also color eggs later. I think we'll stay home tomorrow. I just talked to one of my brothers to let him know we're not ready to entertain anyone at our house yet and I'd rather not travel too far, so maybe we can get together next weekend after we're a little more settled. He traveled to the Ukraine last year so figured we'd need some time to get settled and back to normal or to our new normal. There is still dance tomorrow, so I'll try to bring the girls to that since they have a recital in a few weeks. There should be some Mandarin speaking parents and kids there and I hope they can see if Amanda has any questions now that she's home. Then we can have a nice family dinner at home and Jessica and Anna can get ready to return to school on Monday.

We Made It Home Safe and Sound!

2011-04-21T20:43:00.001-05:00

We left for the airport at 7:00 a.m. for our 10:10 flight. Check in went well and then we had to say goodbye to our fantastic guide. It was hard to say goodbye. I don't know how I would have made it through without her. If you're lucky enough to have Veronica, she is the absolute best!

We landed 20 minutes late in Tokoyo. I wasn't 100% positive we were late because they only announced the local time in Japanese, not in the Chinese or English translation. But I figured between 20 minutes late and 40 minutes early, we were most likely late. As soon as we got off the plane, there were airline personnel asking MSP?? Then I saw a sign with our names. Then it got really funny as they started running us through the airport. Through security. Down to a bus to drive us from one terminal to another. Amanda wasn't moving any faster than a slow walk and at one point I saw a woman carrying her and running as we tried to get to our connecting flight as soon as possible. We pretty much had a private transfer bus and at that point the guy said he'd called ahead and let them know we were coming, checked to see if our luggage was checked all the way through (yes), and if we had boarding passes (no). In the end, we were seated 20 minutes before the plane took off, but we were all laughing. Amanda was carrying a big stuffed Goat/Sheep and a flight attendant thought it was so cute she had Jessica take a picture with her.

We slept off and on the entire trip back. Immigration took awhile as the agent took care of all the attendants and pilots from our flight first. I found it funny too that the family in the room next to us at the White Swan were in front of us when we got back to the US.

After going through immigration and customs, we got to see a some friends and their daughters who met us at the airport. Amanda got to see right away that there were other families like hers. Then she had her first experience with a carseat and that's when she lost it. She had a tantrum the entire way home. My friends stayed a little while (I wonder if Amanda thought she's aquired 2 more sisters?) then left us. Amanda did not like our dogs and cat. She was petrified of them, so they will be spending some extra kennel time until she gets more comfortable being around them.

Wednesday

2011-04-20T17:15:00.002-05:00

This is our last day in China. I am sad to leave because I don't know when we will ever come back. But I am also very anxious to get home and start our lives as a family Today was a quiet day. We had a nice breakfast, went out for a small lunch, and a final group supper at Lucy's. In between, we mostly hung out in the hotel with the girls playing. Amanda kept getting me to look at her jumping around, writing her alphabet, or coloring. We did a lot of high 5's. There were a few tears when I got her breakfast instead of one of her sisters, or when she was turning off the bathroom light while Jessica was in there and Anna tried to stop her. But for the most part, those tears were short lived and she was happy - we all were happy. She was also looking for lots of approval from me which was nice. Tomorrow we leave the hotel at 7:00 a.m. so this will be my last post from China.

I've really enjoyed the whole trip although there were some really tough times and some challenges along the way. It was nice to share this with Jessica and Anna as well, and I'm sure that having all 3 of my girls here is what made it so enjoyable to me.

2011-04-19T20:41:00.003-05:00

Today Amanda and I got up early as we had to be on the bus to the US Consulate by 7:30. I let Jessica and Anna sleep in. Amanda wasn't happy, cried and whined down to breakfast, but decided she'd cooperate. By the time breakfast was over, she held my hand to meet by the elevators. Slow and steady.

The Consulate appointment went well up until the point where they said they didn't get my updated I-171H with my correct address. I spent weeks getting that corrected at home and thought it was all corrected. I tried to keep my emotions in check but as soon as the director of the adoption unit at the consulate asked me if all was well, I started crying. Couldn't help it. Yesterday I had t deal with finding a new way to Tokoyo and today I have a glitch in getting Amanda's visa which we need for Amanda to come to the US. The director assured me it would get worked out, that Amanda was still mine (I knew that, but emotions run high). So I had to go back to the hotel room, find my I-171H, call my agencies emergency number, then forward the email I'd originally sent them with the correct form, then wait. (This morning, Wed morning) I did get an email that the form followed it's way through official channels (USCIS to NBC to NVS to the US Consulate in Guangzhou) by 4:41 central US time. So my guide should be able to pick up Amanda's visa this afternoon.

After that our group met to take a Red Couch picture (always have to do that at the White Swan). And then I took the girls out for lunch since Jessica and Anna missed breakfast. Did a little wandering around looking at the shops, then took the girls swimming. We met the group for a group supper and I couldn't keep my eyes focised while trying to write in my journal, so gave up and called it a night. I fell asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow.

Today is a free day as 4 of our 6 families have consulate appointments today and then our guide pick's up Amanda's and the other famillies visas at 3:30. Tomorrow we leave for home. It will be a long day with flights, but I think we're all ready to quit living out of a hotel room and get home. Not many pictures from yesterday, so I'll include Monday nights playing with mom's hair, the red couch, and the pool.

Monday

2011-04-18T20:18:00.009-05:00

Today we went to Yuntai Garden in the morning followed by lunch at another Cantonese place. This afternoon was more wandering around Shamian Island checking out the new places - Susan's, Emma's, Jordon's, etc. For supper, I just got some noodle bowls for the girls from the local 7-11. Much more relaxing day. Amanda was great today. She held my hand going down to breakfast, let me walk her around so she could point to what she wanted. She was hanging out with the 6 year old who's new brother is also from Shanghai. I got some hugs tonight and the girls put almost every one of Amanda's hair dealies in my hair. I wish every day could be like today.

The bad part of today is that when I confirmed my flights home, I found out Delta has cancelled all flights between Guangzhou and Tokoyo until July because of the earthquake in Japan. I had our guide help me figure out what to do. Delta wanted me to take a flight from Hong Kong. But they would not pay for the train ride from Guangzhou to Hong Kong and the night in the hotel in Hong Kong because of the early flight. I already paid for the last night at the White Swan and since Delta cancelled the flight figured they needed to figure out how I was going to make the Tokoyo to home flight. So now we're taking a later flight from Guangzhou to Tokoyo with China Southern airline. We only have an hour to make the connecting flight which Delta thinks is enough. Some prayers and crossed fingers that we don't run into any problems with the flight. Tomorrow we get up early for our 8:30 U.S. Consulate appointment.

Sunday

2011-04-18T19:54:00.005-05:00

Today we visited the Chen Family Temple. I saw it back in 2000 when I adopted Jessica, but not in the same detail. After that we visited a government store (one where they don't bargain and where our guide said we could be assured of the quality of the items). Then we went out for a group lunch to sample cantonese cuisine. Nothing wierd although the carmeled apples where new. Then we went back to the hotel for a free afternoon. Anna, Amanda, and I walked around and checked out the stores. Jennifer's has moved and is not nearly as nice a store as it was before. The granite etchings and people painting pictures from the inside of the snuff bottles were there, but you had to look for them. Very different now that there aren't nearly as many adoptions occurring. One shopkeeper asked me why because there were still children needing homes. I told her I wish I knew. They seem to be aware of the timeline being so long and the large number of special needs children now being adopted.

It was Jessica's family day (adoption day). We were planning to go out to eat, but it was raining really hard. Our guide said KFC, McDonalds and Papa Johns all deliver, so she'd call and order what we wanted. We tried KFC, but they didn't deliver french fries, so we went with McDonalds. Veronica also bought us a cake for our family day.

Amanda had another hour and a half cry. Veronica suggested letting her try to work it out. It's hard to know how much to press it. We still have good times and bad. It helps knowing other families are also dealing with tantrums and other issues regardless of the age of their new child.

Saturday

2011-04-16T20:42:00.005-05:00

First day at the White Swan in Guangzhou. Still a nice breakfast buffet. It was nice to see the families we were with last Saturday in Beijing, see their new children and see how they were all doing. After breakfast we walked to the shop that does visa photos. That hasn't changed from the first time I was here. Then we walked over to the medical office which is still the same as when I was there for Anna 9 years ago. They checked out her eyes quite a bit and if I could read Chinese characters, I think I got the prescription she'll need for her glasses. Every child over 2 had to have a TB test. Amanda was last and even Veronica was worried because she held her tight, held her face away from what was going on, and in the end, she didn't cry at all. She showed everyone the blood like it was a battle scar.

Much of Shamian Island has changed (like the Consulate is no longer on the island next to the hotel, and Jennifer's and Sherry's aren't down the street they were), but a lot is still the same (Lucy's is still there, the visa photo place, 7-11, medical office). It's nice to be in a familiar spot where I know we can wander. We also completed all our paperwork this afternoon. So all we need to do before the consulate appointment on Tuesday is go back to read the TB test. Tomorrow and Monday our guide will take us on a tour and some shopping places. Anna can't wait to go swimming. Amanda was excited to see the pool, so I think she's been swimming before. She's been exposed to so many more things than most kids from orphanages due to her being in foster care. I'm also pleased that she seems to be so developmentally on target. She can write and recite the alphabet. She can tie her shoes and is great at coloring. She even put her Coming Home Barbie's hair into pony tails. We didn't need the crib in the room, but it was nice that the hotel still gives the Barbie to adoptive families. It also appears she can read some Chinese characters.

Tonight we had a group supper at Lucy's which was nice. And a few minutes ago I got a big, big hug from Amanda - totally her idea as I am sitting at the desk on the computer. She's slowly getting used to me. She's bonded with her big sisters immediately and was really really jealous when Anna started playing with another little girl. I get some smiles and hugs every now and then. And every now and then she remembers she's not supposed to like me and gets mad.

Friday

2011-04-15T21:21:00.001-05:00

Friday we pretty much sat around the hotel room. Our flight wasn't until 6:30 (and was delayed an hour), and our guide was able to go to Civil Affairs to pick up the final paperwork without us. Amanda was a bit stubborn before breakfast because she wanted some gum. I decided to let her have it just so we wouldn't start out the day with a tantrum. After breakfast the girls were running and jumping around in the room. Anna came over and gave me a big bear hug and Amanda came over and hugged us both. A little bit later, she came to me on her own and gave me the biggest, tightest hug. It was everything I could do not to cry. She's definitely starting to come around to me.

But then around 11:00, she wanted something - I suspected from the minibar, but we had apple juice, grape juice and water that we couldn't take with us on the plane, so I said no. She got her sullen look then started to cry. I let her stand there for awhile, then picked her up and sat on the bed holding her and trying to let her cry it out. Eventually that led to a 1 hour and 15 minute tantrum. I think the communication barrier is much harder for her than for us. I started talking and throwing in a little of my limited Mandarin. She kept yelling at me every time I started talking. Whether she was yelling at me to "stop talking" or to "shut up", I'm not sure, but the sentiment was the same. I kept telling her Boo, No. I know it's hard, but I'm the mom and I can talk when I want to. Finally, she fell asleep, but then housekeeping, and then our guide came and she only slept for 15 minutes. Then our guide gave her a long lecture and then explained the rest of the day's plans to her.

She actually loved the airplane ride, totally got that we were flying in the air. I got a shaking peace sign with both hands. There was a little crying when Anna wouldn't give her something she wanted for supper and I wouldn't let her have the nutty treats until after she ate some of her meal. When we got to the hotel room she wouldn't go inside, but I think the way she ran in later and laughed, that she was trying to kid us. So now we're at the White Swan. Still over rated in my book. Small sink area and you have to pay for internet access here - it was free in the other hotels. They put a crib/toddler bed in our room. Jessica wanted to sleep in it, but not Amanda. She opted to sleep on a blanket on the floor between the 2 beds. No pictures today.

2011-04-14T18:32:00.001-05:00

Today we visited the Shanghai City orphanage. It is a wonderful facility. They showed us the rehabilitation center where outside families can bring their children as well. They have an area for autistic children, physical therapy, and accupunture, and the area for deaf and hard of hearing kids was on the second floor. Then we visited Amanda's classroom so she could say goodbye to her friends. I took a picture of her with her best friend, a boy. Most of the kids in the class appeared to be boys. They told us that pretty much all of the children are considered special needs since most couples in urban areas like Shanghai don't care whether they have girls or boys. The children in the classroom performed a song for us before we left. There was another little boy who cannot be adopted because of his heart issues, but who has a man I believe he said he was a retired banker from Poland who visits him twice a year, who came and brought treats for everyone and Amanda managed to snare a few of those as well.

Amanda took the visit very well. They children were glad to see her, and she understood that she was here to say goodbye to her friends. When we were outside, a group of teenagers (over 13 so too old to be adopted) from the orphanage came out to study outside. They all seemed to know Amanda. There was a girl in a wheelchair who appeared to me to be sad that YangYang was leaving. All in all, it was a nice visit and it was really nice to see what a wonderful facility it was. Our guide said that in the big cities a lot of the big companies donate funds to the orphanages because they mostly have children with special needs and it helps provide therapy and other medical, psychological and emotional needs.

After that, we visited YuYuan Park. The park itself is beautiful. It is surrounded by shops and crawling with people. We had lunch at McDonalds. Amanda has obviously eaten there before, probably with her foster family. She knew she wanted a hangbao (hamburger) and fries and asked for it before I could even show her the menu. One of the words I know.

Tonight we will go out for supper to a local Chinese restaurant. Tomorrow our guide will pick up the passports and certificates from Civil Affairs and we will be able to leave Shanghai for Guangzhou. Our flight doesn't leave, however until about 6:30 p.m. She said we'd probably not get to the White Swan hotel until about 11:30 tomorrow night.

2011-04-14T18:29:00.004-05:00

Zhouzhuang

2011-04-13T19:42:00.001-05:00

Today we visited one of the water cities. It was fun and a nice day. There really isn't that much to post, so I'll post more photos. As far as Amanda's adjustment, she did have another meltdown this afternoon - perhaps too hungry, likely too tired. Tonight we're having a good time with tickling, pillow fights, and spending a little time repeating words from the First Thousand Words book and especially trying to learn "potty". She does know bubbles, though as she just asked for them.

2011-04-13T19:32:00.011-05:00

2011-04-12T20:52:00.000-05:00

Yesterday was difficult. Today will be better.

Today YangYang let me dress her. She opted for the jeans and t-shirt. She has definite opinions. She also let me sit by her at breakfast and was pretty proud when she was able to stab a sausage piece with her fork. So much progress.

Then we headed off to Civil Affairs to make the adoption official. The orphanage rep was there and she speaks English. She was so happy to see YangYang adjusting so well. She told me she was really nervous after yesterday. We had a short interview and the Civil Affairs officer also spoke English. Perhaps due to Shanghai being such an urban, global city. Once the adoption certificate was ready, the Civil Affairs officer presented the certificate to me in a room set up for a nice photo opportunity. She's officially ours!!

Then we had to go to the notary's office to notarize the adoption certificate and finish the prep work on the certificates needed for the US side of the paperwork. While there, I also received a copy of Amanda's finding ad and the most precious gift Amanda will get. When she was found, her birth parents had left a letter with her. It wasn't just a note with her birthday like I expected. In fact, her birthday wasn't even listed. Veronica translated it to me right away and I of course cried. The letter said they were a married couple who did not live in Shanghai, but worked there. They did not have the means to take care of a baby although she was healthy. They hoped someone would be able to care for her and provide for her. What a gift!

After that we were supposed to visit the orphanage, but by the time we would have gotten there, it would have been nap time and we would not be able to see any of the children. Our children would not have been able to say goodbye to their friends. So we will go there Thursday morning instead. More time will be good. So instead, we went to a Walmart Supercenter. I bought Amanda some new socks as she was drowning in the ones I brought. I also bought her a t-shirt with Minnie Mouse. Disney marketing works all over the world. Amanda wanted that one above the 6 or 7 others we showed her and she kept checking to make sure it was still in the cart (which she opted to sit in today). We also bought some bubbles from the toy section. Yes, she pointed out others, but also learned that her new mama isn't going to buy her everything.

Before going back to the hotel, we stopped for pizza at a place Veronica liked. I made the mistake of not getting a separate cup for Amanda to get pop and she got all sullen again. I figured she could have my water, but she wants what her sisters get. After getting the cup she was fine. She also liked the popcorn chicken I got her and especially liked it with ketchup. She wanted to let me know she really liked that! She called me mama a couple times today - another when she wanted to play with the bubbles back at the hotel.

There was another misunderstanding between Anna and Amanda back at the hotel where Amanda ended up crying. Veronica happened to call and was able to translate that Amanda wanted to wash her hands and Anna thought she was going to dump the bubble stuff. Veronica told me I was a very good mom. I was feeling like the language barrier might be a bigger hurdle than I thought, but she assured me things were going very well.

For bed, Veronica had told YangYang to let me give her a bath and put on the pajamas I brought for her. Amanda did let me give her a bath, but wanted the Minnie Mouse t-shirt to wear for bed. So I put that on her and the summer pajama shorts I brought for Guangzhou. I was exhausted and fell asleep by 9:00 so am sending this post Wednesday morning. It was the first good night's sleep I had since coming here.

2011-04-12T20:48:00.004-05:00

2011-04-11T18:16:00.000-05:00

We went not to the Civil Affairs office, but a special place they now have to do adoptions. When we first got there, we went into a room with other adoptive parents and began working on the paperwork. So we got a jump on all the adoption paperwork so we won't have to do it tomorrow. The van with the children arrived about the time everyone finished up. Amanda was the last to come in but I recognized her right away (pretty easy since she was the only 5 year old). She came all bundled up and carrying a large tote bag with the pillow I sent, a bunch of stuffed animals including a huge purple teletubbie, some coloring books and markers. She came right over to me, gave me a hug and said "mama". I started to introduce her to her sisters and then the grief hit. She wailed in pain and started crying. I hugged her and rocked her and tried to stop crying although I was crying because she was grieving so much. After awhile our guide came over and started talking to her. She told me Amanda was very stubborn. That she asked her if she'd like to go outside and she said no, now!! She cried for a long time, then the orphanage person and our guide took her out of the room to try to talk to her. I went out eventually to check. She didn't want anything to do with me. I figured I just need to give her time, but knew I'd be in for a long day. I left again to handle some paperwork and when I came back, if looks could kill, I'd be ashes several times over. The next half hour or so was filled with Amanda holding onto the chairs for dear life, trying to convince the orphanage person she didn't want a family, trying to convince our guide that she should be her mom, and basically trying to negotiate any option but the one that was going to happen. I didn't need to understand the language to know exactly what she was saying. She wanted no part of me.

We finally got her to come to the bus (I tried carrying her and she agreed to walk since she didn't want me carrying her). I tried to get her to sit with me, but no way. I tried to hold her hand, again, no way. I buckled her into the seat because she was trying to get as far away from me as possible. The plan was to go to Carrefours, a very small Walmartish sort of store, to get whatever we'd need that we didn't bring with us. I wasn't sure that was going to happen but we tried. She agreed to stand in the cart (no way was she going to sit). I let her pick out what kind of shoes she liked and she did try them on but only after our guide, Veronica, assured her she could still keep her boots. I also let her pick out some crocs since it will be much warmer in Guangzhou. They didn't have any nice sandals in her size. Then I bought her a bowl and spoon purely for the symbolic meaning they hopefully have for her - that I will make sure to feed her. I know that Veronica was telling her that I was such a nice mama for buying her things. I'm not sure I want her to be beholden to me because I buy her things, but once we put those pink tennis shoes in the cart, she was much calmer. By the time we left the store, she actually took Anna's and Jessica's hands and sat with them in the back of the bus. She also shared her jelly beans with them. So major progress in a short time.

After that we stopped at a mall and ordered takeout food to bring back to the hotel. She of course would not eat anything. Not at all unexpected as Jessica wouldn't eat or drink anything the first day and Anna didn't drink anything for several days. She did like coloring and spent quite a bit of the afternoon doing that. We went through most of the toys I brought. She especially like the etch-a-sketch and the MP3 player my friend Deb gave her with Chinese kids songs on it. She's a girl that know what she likes and would fast forward through the ones she didn't like. I think the battery wore out, so I have to figure out if I have something to open the battery door and find out what kind of batteries I need. When we met the guide and other family for supper, Amanda said she liked her sisters a lot. I know Veronica told her that I thought she was beautiful and very smart. (This afternoon, we gave her a sketch pad and pen, and she started writing the alphabet in upper case letters!) Supper was fine. She didn't want to eat but Veronica convinced her if she was hungry, she needed to eat. Amanda, who they nicknamed YangYang and I have to find out why as I thought it'd be XiXi, also really likes the ant squasher app on the ipod touch. She has no problem figuring out electronics. I have seen a smile or 2 today and she was even laughing when Anna and Jessica had a pillow fight tonight. But when I took her hand to leave the restaurant after supper, she got all sullen and refused to walk. She's now refusing to go to bed. She won't put her pajamas on and is sitting in the chair trying to hold out. I think we'll just all have to go to bed or wait for her to be so tired she can't keep her eyes open any more.

She's spunky, beautiful and smart. We love her already. I know that these are all good qualities and that she is dealing with her grief and not holding it in. All good things and all part of the scenarios I've been running through over the last months. I wish it didn't have to be so hard on her. Some of her obstinance was funny, but then she got mad and told us to quit laughing at us (again, I didn't need a translator for this, but Veronica did anyway). Tomorrow we finish the paperwork and I will officially adopt her. After that we will visit the orphanage. I have reservations about this now, but I've always urged other families to do this because I did with Jessica and it was a good thing. I've already asked Veronica to make sure she understands we're going back there so she can say goodbye, that I'm not bringing her back. After our first hour together, I expected her to cry and be hysterical all afternoon and that didn't happen. So I do expect it to be easier after another day or two. She's just about out for the count now, so maybe after a good night's sleep, things will look better to her in the morning. Then again, maybe not. I'm sure glad I've been through this before so I'm not freaked out.

gotcha day photos

2011-04-11T18:12:00.003-05:00

Sunday

2011-04-10T08:16:00.001-05:00

There is one family, a single mom, that is getting her daughter today. She was excited, scared, and nervous this morning. We all assured her she would be fine. We told her to trust her gut and follow her heart and she'll be fine. Everyone else will get their child tomorrow. We will all meet up again in Guangzhou. I think the 2 of us families traveling to Shanghai were the only ones not going it alone. But that's almost the normal way these days.

Our flight to Shanghai was non-eventful. We left at 7:30 and landed at 9:30 a.m. We met our guide, Veronica, and headed to our hotel. Shanghai is very green and flowers are everywhere. We've been by several parks that are gorgeous. Saw a bunch of wild cats in one. But it is also very humid. It's only in the 60's and it feels much warmer. It's a very urban, very modern city. After checking in and getting a little settled in our rooms, we met Veronica and walked to a grocery store a block away. We picked up some water, snacks, and snacks and juice for Amanda. After we brought those to our rooms, our guide walked us to a Chinese restaurant for lunch. It was delicious. The cabbage was wonderful! Who knew?! All the food was wonderful. I also really liked the chicken and cashews.

After lunch we walked to a bank to exchange money for the adoption fees. When I went for my other girls, we paid the orphanage donation and fees in US dollars. In between, agencies could wire funds to pay the orphanage donation. Now, we have to exchange our cash for Chinese RMB's. Since you get about 650 RMB's for every $100, we had a large wad of money. Very interesting and a change from the way things were done in the past.

It was about 4:30 by the time we got back to the hotel, so we're just trying to chill before the big day tomorrow. I keep trying to imagine different scenarios. One where Amanda comes to us smiling. One where she comes crying. One where she's scared. One where she tries to run away. I have no idea how she will react. What a trauma to put a 5 year old through after all the other's she also been through. It's not fair, but it is what it is and I have to trust that she'll come through it as she has the other changes in her life. I'll try to get a good sleep tonight, but I get more excited and more nervous as the time gets closer.

Saturday

2011-04-10T08:12:00.002-05:00

Today was a long day of touring. We had 4 other families fly in last night to join our group. 3 of them joined us for the touring. 2 were first time parents and they had many questions throughout the day. Tiananmen Square was so crowded. I don't remember so many people on either of the last trips I made to China. They had ropes to keep lines moving and it would have taken an hour standing in line if we hadn't been able to bypass it. Looked pretty much the same except for so many people. The Forbidden City was also crowded. I don't remember it going on for so long, but maybe it's because we'd already seen the Summer Palace and Ming Tombs. The actual buildings pretty much all look alike. I did enjoy the Imperial Gardens at the end. I was too tired to really walk around much though.

After the Forbidden City, we headed to a Jade Factory for lunch and some shopping. Our group sat at a table and sampled many dishes. I really liked the eggplant and "fried milk". Loved the fried milk and could see it as being a State Fair food. It was similar to cream cheese puffs but the milk wasn't creamy - a little more solid. We looked at all the jade jewelry afterwards, but the prices were more than I was willing to pay even after the steep discount they offered me.

After lunch, we headed on to the Great Wall. It was very, very cloudy and later in the day - about 3 p.m. by the time we got there. It wasn't crowded at all and the shop owners barely reacted when we walked by or walked into their stores. I walked up further than I thought I would. To the 2nd turret. Beyond that would have sorely tested my fear of heights. I did stay and watch my girls make it to the next turret, which was a long and extremely steep way. I kept imagining all sorts of ways they could fall and I finally decided I'd be better off not watching and trust they would be careful. They actually made it to the top and beyond. When they finally came down and realized they had another 30 minutes before the bus left, they were disappointed they came back. But one of the other moms told them not to go any further. They were bonding with the 6 year old in our group and deciding that they will be good big sisters. I would say of all the places we toured in Beijing, they liked the Great Wall best. I actually enjoyed the times we just walked around and observed normal life.

By the time we got back to the hotel (around 6:30-7) we were exhausted. We opted for ice cream for supper and then returning to the hotel. Both girls fell asleep as soon as their heads hit their pillows. I stayed up and packed our bags as we needed our suitcases outside our doors by 4:45 a.m. and needed to leave for the airport by 5:15.

2011-04-10T07:52:00.007-05:00

Ming Tombs

2011-04-08T16:34:00.001-05:00

This morning we were all awake by 5:30. After breakfast, we met the other family we will be traveling to Shanghai with. A couple with a 6 year old bringing Grandma along to adopt a boy. Sounds like they waited as long as we did, maybe more. We headed off for the hour drive to the Ming Tombs. It's a whole complex where 13 of the 15 Ming Emporers are buried. Only 2 are available for touring. One is underground and the other above ground. We chose the above ground one. It was quite the complex. We all had no idea what it really was. A lot more leisurely tour today.

We're just having a quiet afternoon. Last night we went down to the hotel's western restaurant. The portions were huge and none of us ate more than half the meal. Today, we're just snacking for lunch and may go out for supper. I'd like to go back to the supermarket. I thought it was kind of funny, but yet not, at how there were only Chinese characters on all the pop bottles, but you could tell exactly what kind of pop it was, from Pepsi, Coke, Diet Coke, Sunkist and even Fanta. Brand marketing at it's best.

I also liked just walking around yesterday and seeing daily life in China. We stopped in a mall, saw lots of street vendors, went into McDonalds, but none of the menu was in English and since we weren't hungry, only thirsty, just went to the supermarket. Our exploring on our own gave my girls a chance to see the real and normal China. I know they were surprised that it wasn't really that different than a big city anywhere in the world. Jessica did say she liked that she blended in while I was the one who stood out. I could tell she really liked walking around. Anna only likes to walk if we have a definite agenda. She said she only wants to see the Great Wall and then go get Amanda, but she was surprised that China had big cities and not everyone is poor.

Tomorrow we add to the group and do the all day group tour. We have to leave the hotel Sunday morning by 5:30. That'll probably the morning we adjust to the time difference and have trouble waking up.

2011-04-08T16:26:00.003-05:00

2011-04-07T21:14:00.000-05:00

Summer Palace

2011-04-07T21:07:00.001-05:00

We Made it to Beijing!

2011-04-07T20:13:00.002-05:00

It was a very long plane ride this time around since we didn't have a stop in LA or San Francisco like my past trips. The girls were so excited when the plane actually took off. It was light out the whole way to Tokyo, since we were flying west. I think we all took some catnaps but we really did not get a lot of sleep. It seemed like they were always feeding us. By the time we got to Tokyo, we were really, really tired. And it was dark out. Jessica slept the entire way from Tokyo to Beijing and Anna and I slept much of the way. I dont know how, but all three times I've flown into Beijing, I 've landed right around midnight. Midnight was never the time we were supposed to land. The first time our plane was delayed 5 hours in San Francisco. The second time there was bad weather and we circled the airport for two hours, and I'm not really sure why we were late this time. My schedule showed us landing at 10:30. When we got to our hotel Jessica fell asleep immeadiately. I had trouble sleeping and still cant find my melatonin. After hearing noises from the bathroom, I realized Anna had locked herself in there and was reading. Without her hearing aids in I couldnt get her attention without waking the people in the neighboring rooms. We were all awake and ready for breakfast by 8. Nice breakfast buffet in the hotel. The rooms and vehicles are stiffling though. They told me because it is spring, they dont use their airconditioning yet. Its 81 degrees in the hotel room! At least this morning I realized the windows opened, so when we are just hanging out, it's not too bad. After breakfast we went on a quick tour of the Summer Palace. I would recommend touring it on your own ins tead of arranging it through the angency. It took as long to get there as we spent there. It was nice and we got some nice photos. Once we got back I had our guide tell me where McDonalds, the supermarket and Starbucks was and we went exploring. I guess there is a Subway too but we did not find that. Jessica ended up buying a gold cow holding a red bundle. Negotiated a little, but they would not budge much. We are just hanging out this afternoon and tonight trying to adjust to the time change. Tomorrow we will tour the Ming Tombs with the other family that's going to Shanghai with us. Saturday is the tour of the Great Wall, Forbidden City etc with the rest of the group that's leaving for China today.

The iPod Touch Goes to...

2011-04-04T07:49:00.002-05:00

Congratulations, Beatrice!!!!!

Itinerary

2011-04-01T20:43:00.001-05:00

Last week was my panic week. This week, I'm getting so much done and really getting excited!

Here is our itinerary:

Day 1 - Tuesday - leave for China at 3 p.m.

Day 2 - Wednesday - arrive in Beijing at 10:30 p.m., check into Poly Plaza Hotel

Day 3 - Thursday - visit Summer Palace

Day 4 - Friday - visit Ming Tombs

Day 5 - Saturday - Tour with travel group: Great Wall, Forbidden City, Tian An Men Square

Day 6 - Sunday - leave for Shanghai, arrive in Shanghai at 9 a.m., check into Yan'An Hotel

Day 7 - Monday - 9:30 a.m. - to Civil Affairs office to get Amanda! Then visit the Shanghai City Orphanage

Day 8 - Tuesday - paperwork

Day 9 - Wednesday - visit Zhouzhuang

Day 10 - Thursday - visit Yuyuang Park

Day 11 - Friday - get Amanda's passport and paperwork, leave for Guangzhou, arrive in Guangzhou at 8:50 p.m., check into White Swan Hotel

Day 12 - Saturday - Amanda's TB test

Day 13 - Sunday - Sightseeing with travel group

Day 14 - Monday - Amanda's visa photo and medical exam

Day 15 - Tuesday - US Consulate appointment and Oath-taking

Day 16 - Wed - Guide will get Amanda's Visa

Day 17 - Thursday - leave Guangzhou at 7:55 a.m. for U.S., Flight arrives home at 1:00 p.m.

Giveaway

2011-04-01T07:01:00.001-05:00

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to all of you who donated. I will be forever grateful and promise to pay it forward some day.

I will draw for the iPod Touch on Sunday during Jessica's dance class, and post the lucky recipient here. I hope to be able to mail the iPod on Monday since we leave for China on Tuesday.

Again - Thank you so much!!!

My Village

2011-03-25T14:04:00.002-05:00

My stress level is down now. My village came through as it always does. Thanks to all my friends! I have such a wonderful support system. My mom was always so impressed by how we all helped each other out. I know I'm usually such a laid-back person, but I've been such a goof lately. Working too many hours, involved in too many things, and too long a winter. I need to take a friend's advice and go for a walk in the sunshine.

Itinerary

2011-03-23T08:14:00.000-05:00

Coming soon....

Got the bill, it's higher than I thought!

2011-03-22T12:20:00.006-05:00

By a little over $1,000 even with my adjustment for the new added fees my agency added the middle of last month. We needed an extra half day in the hotel in Shanghai due to a late departure time, airfare from Shanghai to Guangzhou was higher than I expected, and they are charging an extra amount per day for the 2 extra days in Beijing. Seems the agency is nickling and diming every little thing. Their portion covering guides, buses, and whatever else they do (meaning it doesn't include any airfare or hotel fees), is now just under $4K. Big increase - actually that alone was the low end of travel expenses including hotels and in-China airfare in the travel guide they sent me in December! I really thought having twice as much as last time I went - for the travel portion (airfare, in-China, adoption fees, orphanage donation) would cover it. Maybe I was naiive, but I had more than double what it cost last time so thought I was okay. I'd probably still be fine if I had more paychecks between now and travel, but I don't. I already paid for airfare so unless something tragic happens, we plan on leaving as scheduled.

Tuesday Update

2011-03-22T07:55:00.004-05:00

Yeah! The iPod giveaway fundraiser is working or perhaps it's just that I leave for China in 2 WEEKS!!! It's still not real to me.

1 - So our passports are at the Chinese Consulate in Chicago getting our Visas. They will be picked up on Friday, so I should get them next Monday.

2 - I've started packing.

3 - I have a list. Actually 3 lists. One of things to pack. One of things I need to do before we leave. And one of incentives for my children - items they can do to make my life easier that will earn them roughly $1 per time they do it - dishes, laundry, not miss the bus, not make us late, go to bed on time, do homework, clean various areas of the house. They want to earn more money and I need them to help. They seemed on board with it last night.

4 - I've contacted all their teachers and let them know we'll be gone and requested homework ahead of time or to bring along. The girls have spring break next week and I thought it would be nice if they could do any homework they can ahead of time.

5 - I have my ride to and from the airport.

6 - I found my iPod!!! Jessica borrowed it months ago and neither of us has been able to locate it. I was in Jessica's room last night looking around her closet, reached up wondering if there was a little shelf something could be put on and my hand immediately touched my iPod. Yeah! Jessica's is still missing, but at least mine is found.

Things I still need to do:

1 - I'm still debating on the dogs (toy poodles) and cat. I've had 2 or 3 offers to bring them to someone's house, but I really prefer they stay home. I put human emotions on my pets and feel they would feel less abandoned if they were at home with someone coming to check on them. I'd prefer someone I know or at least someone who knows someone I know rather than just a petsitting service. I know friends could cover some days and the weekends, but I think it's better if I just find someone to cover the whole time.

2 - find Jessica's camera (do you see the theme?) and find the cord to charge up my camera.

3 - pay for the in-China portion of travel

4 - make arrangements for all those nice, crisp $100's I need to bring. This is the first time I'm not obssessed with finding those. If I find them - yeah! If not, what are they going to do?!

5 - those darn girl scout cookies. I need to enter everything on the computer and make sure everyone's paid up, incentives entered, etc. Too big of a job this year. Probably should have asked for an assistant early on.

And again - I LEAVE IN 2 WEEKS!!!!

Two Checkmarks Off My List

2011-03-17T12:31:00.001-05:00

Better late than never, I finally got everything together to apply for our China Visa and put them in the FedEx box today. I thought I had everything together then realized the girls needed to sign their applications, then I thought I'd lost Anna's visa photo and was going to try to get another taken before school. Then found a copy with her Chinese passport. Hopefully it gets to it's destination (There's Always Hope!) and gets done and back to me by the last week of March. I also lined up a friend to take us to the airport and then pick us up when we get home. Whew! That was something I would have asked my mom to do since we're leaving during the day and I didn't want to ask a friend to take off work. But of course my mom passed away unexpectedly in October and that brings a whole other set of emotions to the table. I need to get my list out where I can see it (instead of just my head), so I can actively work on checking it off. I just realized we're leaving in less than 3 weeks - 19 days to be exact! So much to do.

Excited. Worried. Typical Things.

2011-03-14T08:21:00.004-05:00

I started packing yesterday. I'm trying to get by with the medium size rolling duffle (out of the set of 3 I bought years ago). I think I can do that as long as the girls each take a portion of what I've put together for the donation to babies in the orphanage. But now I'm wondering if I should pack as if I have the medium size, but transfer everything to the large one so there's room for souveniers even though a large portion of what I've packed will be freed up once I give the gifts to officials, and take out Amanda's backpack after we have her. I'm also wondering if I should try to bring a sleeping bag since there will be 4 of us in a room with only 2 beds. Or should I just put blankets on the floor? Have to think on that, but if you have any ideas, let me know. I'm always worried about money - who isn't? I did a chart and am a littl short due to the higher fees in Shanghai and my agency adding some pretty hefty flat fees to cover the guides, bus, etc. just last month. I understand with smaller groups that they want to cover things, but it was quite a jump from the amounts they listed in December. I'm hoping the Giveaway (see the link for the iPod under Fundraisers to the upper right) will bring in some funds. At least the airfare was on the low end. That helps. I need to line up someone to take care of my dogs and cat while I'm gone. I really would prefer they stay at home rather than having to board them. And I need to get serious about finding daycare once I'm home and once I go back to work. I think I can get by with only about 5 weeks until school is out, but it's hard to find someone short-term and is it fair to a daycare provider to use them for only 5 weeks? I guess if they have an opening. There's always our school district's daycare center - my backup option. They just haven't returned my emails. And I do have a list of local home daycares with openings. So I'm excited and starting to get ready to travel, but the days are quickly ticking off and there's still so much to do. Will everything go smoothly? Will my girls handle everything okay? Will Amanda adjust quickly and easily? Will any of us get sick in China? Or will everything go smoothly and I worry for nothing?

New Fundraiser!!!! iPod Touch 32 GB!!

2011-03-12T06:39:00.005-06:00

Here's your chance to receive a 32GB iPod touch. For every $10 donation received by April 1st, you will be entered for a chance to win this. See the link to the right under Fundraisers for more details. Just use the "ChipIn!" button to the right to make your donation.

I will also give participants an extra entry for posting the link on Facebook or your blog. Just post a comment with your name and/or blog address to let me know you've done that.

Note that if I do not get enough donations to cover the cost of the item, I will give the cash collected instead.

Activities

2011-03-11T08:35:00.002-06:00

Here are some pictures I took this week. Jessica is playing volleyball and her team is Team Lime.

Anna had a district orchestra concert last night. Her first concert. A whole gym full of strings. Kind of fun.

Jessica had a district band concert on Tuesday night, but I forgot my camera and my phone.

Happy Birthday, XiXi (Amanda)!!

2011-03-10T08:15:00.002-06:00

Today is my baby's 5th birthday. She sits in an orphanage in Shanghai while we still wait to go and get her. Today was also supposed to be the day we left to get her until I was denied a consulate appointment because my fingerprints were expiring. How I wish I could be with her and hug her and tell her Happy Birthday! I feel bad because we're not coming yet. I feel bad because I didn't send her a cake and card. I feel bad because at one point I relayed the message to the orphanage that we were planning to get her in March and I don't know if they've told her anything yet. A sad day for me. It hit me really hard this morning.

Happy Birthday, XiXi. I hope you have a great day. We will be celebrating all future birthdays with you. And we're coming. It's just been out of my control.

Looks Like We'll Leave on April 5th

2011-03-04T14:06:00.002-06:00

And get a couple days of sightseeing in. I arrived at midnight, did one super filled day of sightseeing in Beijing before Jessica's and again for Anna's adoptions, so this will be something different. Definitely nice for the girls. And a chance to get used to the time difference.

Confirmed Consulate Appointment

2011-03-04T11:33:00.000-06:00

For April 19th at 8:30 a.m. We can leave for China on April 6th! Now I need to buy airline tickets. WooHoo!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Back on the Rollercoaster!

2011-03-02T09:00:00.000-06:00

There were no US Consulate appointments available for us to leave for China on March 23rd or 24th. Because of Tomb Sweeping Holiday, I can't leave the following week. So now my agency is trying for an April 19th appointment so we can leave on April 6th or 7th. If that doesn't work, we're back to not leaving until May.

New TA!!! Now I can go to China and get Amanda!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2011-03-01T10:51:00.003-06:00

.

I didn't expect it until next week at the earliest! My updated TA came and now that I have an I-171H where nothing expires until 2012, I can request a consulate date and go to China! My agency offered me either a March 17th or March 24th departure date. I'm chosing the March 24th because I'm in a total panic about all I have to do before I go. I was mentally prepared to wait until May and now I can actually leave this month!!

My heart is racing and I can't believe all things have finally come together where I can go. Now I just have to wait a couple of days for my CA and then I can get airplane tickets. Better apply for those visas now.

Deep breaths...

Buttons & Keychains

2011-02-28T07:42:00.000-06:00

The photos aren't that great, but a friend lent me her button maker and I can now make buttons and keychains. Just email me a photo or picture or let me know what you're looking for and I can look. I will then make a button or a keychain for $4 if local or $5 including postage and handling. If you have any ideas or if you have a group, I can quote you for a group discount.

Yeah, Surprise Referrals Came

2011-02-25T07:19:00.000-06:00

So soon after the last batch, CCAA sent out referrals that were received the first day of rumors that they had begun matching. And my agency got 2 separate LID's worth. Of course they didn't get any in the last batch, but at least we didn't fall further behind. They're only through LID's up to June 9, 2006, but the surprise was nice to those who got referrals.

New I-171H is on the way!

2011-02-23T08:17:00.000-06:00

The officer at CIS and I are almost on a first name basis now...And she said my new I-171H is in the mail as we speak. Yeah! Now if I could just get a new TA.

Road Blocks Along the Way

2011-02-21T16:00:00.004-06:00

I finally got my updated I-171H that doesn't expire until October, 2012 and that shows my fingerprints don't expire until May, 2012. But then I notice that they still have my old address on it. So I called again today and asked that they reissue it with my new address.

Of course now I'll have to wait for a new TA as my old one is expiring. I don't expect to get that until around March 10th (my original intended travel date and Amanda's 5th birthday).

Now, my agency updated us on holidays and such affecting travel in April. Okay, so there's a Tomb Sweeping holiday on March 31st. They may ask if people can still travel on April 1st, but since their China travel agency is closed, if we left that day, we'd miss the Beijing portion of the trip. I could handle that, but I'm bringing my girls, so they need to see Beijing and the Great Wall. They will also not send anyone on April 14, 21 or 28 because of the Trade Fair in Guangzhou and Labor Day in China. So short of my TA coming by very early March, the only potential travel date is April 7th. That could only happen if I got a consulate appointment on April 18th or 19th because the consulate is closed on April 20th. Last week there was an announcement from the US Consulate in Guangzhou that they would only be taking 24 appointments per day. So I would have to get my TA and be lucky enough to get one of the 48 CA's available. Otherwise, the next travel date is May 5th!

So, one road block after another. I'm still hoping for an April 7th travel date, but also preparing myself for May 5th. Frustrating, but I've done all I can do.

Tomb Sweeping Holiday. Can't get it out of my head.

Adoption Bug T-Shirts Now Available

2011-02-17T08:17:00.001-06:00

Another fundraiser:

http://www.adoptionbug.com/journeytoamanda/

Tax Deductible Donations for our Journey to Amanda

2011-02-14T18:41:00.002-06:00

Tax deductible donations of $25 or more can be made to help us adopt Amanda. Please put my name in the cover letter only, not on the check. The IRS doesn't allow for a tax deductible donation to have any name other than the tax-exempt organization.

Any donations should be mailed to:
His Kids Too!
219-B Delta Court
Tallahassee, FL 32303

Thank you!!

Update on Travel and Starting Some Fundraisers

2011-02-14T07:45:00.003-06:00

Update on travel process:
Okay, so I talked to someone in the adoption unit of Citizenship Immigration Services. She's looked at my I-171H renewal application. She said everything looked fine except my fingerprints expired. I called her and told her I had them taken last Monday. She said it took a couple of days to get into the system, so she'd check and then process my application. Since it was Thursday that I talked to her, I'm hoping/assuming I will get my new I-171H this week showing my application is good until October, 2012, and that my fingerprints are good until May, 2012.

But now, I will have to wait for a new travel approval. The US Consulate won't give me an appointment without a valid I-171H, valid fingerprints, and a valid TA. By valid, I mean ones that are soon expiring. I figure it could take until my original proposed travel date of March 10th to get that new TA. So that will put me into probably an early April travel date, maybe April 7th? I'm at a wait and see point right now.

Fundraisers:
As you can see by the sidebars to the right, I have started some fundraisers. The adoption fees for Shanghai are amongst the highest and close to $1,000 more than I originally planned. I've also been given a range for the total costs of the in-China travel plus Shanghai adoption fees. I'll barely have enough money if everything is at the bottom of the range (between the in-China/adoption fees and airfare). I might be able to come up with a tad more, but I've pretty much bled the well dry. So I decided to start some fundraisers. I also applied for a small grant, but most of the grant places only give their grants to married couples, so I don't qualify. And many only meet quarterly and I'll need the money sooner rather than later.

I added a button to the right if you find it in your heart to make an outright donation. Someone I know posted on my facebook account that if many of the people I know just gave me $10, it wouldn't take very long to come up with the additional funds I need. I did apply to one of the places that would take tax deductible donations in my name, where I then apply for a grant, and they then send the donations people made in my name to my adoption agency. I don't know how long it takes to hear from them but if they approve me, I will post that and their information on the sidebar.

I've also put up a link to my Just Love Coffee store. If you are a coffee lover, they sell coffee and are a Fair Trade certified program helping orphans and their forever families. I get a portion of the purchase price of everything you buy.

If you are local, my girls and I are selling candy bars - Hershey or M&M/Mars varieties for $1 per candy bar.

By the end of the week, I will have an Adoption Bug store where you can buy any one of six varieties of T-Shirts. My girls and I have several that we purchased from another friend's fundraiser and we all love them.

I am also looking into doing online parties for The Gourmet Cupboard and Scentsy. Look for more information and links to those soon.

And I will be making 2 1/4" buttons and keychains. You can either supply me with your child's photo or a picture or drawing you like, and I will make it into a button or keychain. They will sell for $4-$5. If you have any special requests just let me know.

If anyone has any other ideas, please let me know. I do have most of the funds I need, I'm just looking to come up with another $2-$3K so I know for sure I will have enough for all of us to get to China to adopt Amanda, XiXi (pronounced SiSi).

The Ups and Downs or Rather the Rollercoaster of Adoption

2011-02-08T18:28:00.003-06:00

I got my fingerprint letter on Saturday and went down to see if they would fingerprint me early, like now, and they did!! My agency says they still need the new I-171H in order to request a CA, so I called back the adoption unit of CIS and let them know I'd been fingerprinted. They said my file still hadn't been assigned so they'd see if they could assign it. They took my phone number but haven't called back.

My agency said if I don't get my new I-171H this week, I pretty much have to get a new travel approval. Their Beijing office is closed until Thursday due to Chinese New Year. But I asked them to go ahead and request a new TA so I don't loose any time in case it takes a couple weeks or more to get the new I-171H. I'm glad I did that because they said a new TA could take 4 WEEKS! That would mean I'm probably looking at traveling in April. Okay, so April isn't the end of the world. And it would mean even less daycare expense needed from the time I go back to work until the girls are out for the summer. The weather would be nicer. So there are positives to waiting. It's just XiXi is waiting in the orphanage for us to come and get her. Somehow, even though it's a nice orphanage, it just seems like it might be easier to make her wait if she was still in foster care.

Since I called for my fingerprint letter on Monday and they said they'd mail it the next day and I didn't get it until Saturday, I don't really hold out much hope of getting what I need to travel when I'd planned. At least my kids are okay with it. Jessica would just like me to settle on a date since she's told all her friends that we'd travel in March, and now she's told them it'll be after spring break. Anna really wishes we'd get there for XiXi's birthday. If we end up waiting until April, perhaps we'll have to used Blessed Kids to send her a birthday cake.

Losing Hope of a March 10th Departure Date

2011-02-05T08:18:00.004-06:00

My homestudy agency gave me a phone number for the adoption unit of Citizenship Imigration Services, so I called them Monday. They were just pulling applications received on December 17th and mine was sent January 17th. The woman was very nice though, gave me my SIM number and started the process when she saw that it was my free extension. She said they'd assign a fingerprint date on Tuesday and then my letter inviting me to have my fingerprints taken would be sent probably Wednesday. I called back Wednesday and the phone was never answered. So I called back Thursday and found out my fingerprint appointment was March 1st. She said some offices will let you take them earlier, but I definitely need my letter first. So far - no letter. If it comes today, I plan to go down to the fingerprint place on Monday and see if they'll take them. I'm afraid though that since my agency has put a travel group together for those they were able to get consulate appointments for, that I won't be able to travel on March 10th. I had hopes that I still could if I got my fingerprints taken this week, but we're closing in on just one month to go.

If I can't travel March 10th, then I need to extend or get a new travel approval. I emailed my agency with an update yesterday. I hope they just go ahead with extending my TA so when I finally do get my letter and get my fingerprints done, I will be able to travel without having to wait for more updated paperwork. I just start to get nervous now because there's the Trade Fair the last half of April during which many agencies say they won't send groups to China. (Although I adopted Jessica on April 17th, so back in 2000 they sent small groups.) And then there's the May 1st holiday in China where they close down for a week. Worries in the back of my head, but I don't think I'll be running into the middle of April.

Happy Year of the Rabbit!!

2011-02-03T08:00:00.000-06:00

A placid year after the ferocious year of the Tiger. We should go off to some quiet spot to lick our wounds and get some much needed rest after all the battles of the past year.

Good taste and refinement will shine on everything. People will acknowledge that persuasion is better than force. Diplomacy, international relations and politics will be given a front seat. We will act with discretion and make reasonable concessions.

A time to watch that we don't become too indulgent. Law and order will be lax. People will be busy enjoying themselves, entertaining others, or taking it easy. Everything is quiet and calm. Money can be made without too much labor. Our lifestyles will be leasurely. A temperate year with unhurried pace. It may seem possible for us to be carefree and happy without too many annoyances.

Those compatible with the Rabbit (Jessica is a Rabbit): the Sheep, Dog (Amanda), and Pig (Me) in particular, will also find 2011's circumstances inspiring them to greater personal happiness and professional success.

Others will suffer, by degree, depending on how flexible they are to the world mood. Those who have cultivated careful negotiation skills (or can sniff out and swiftly dodge dangerous situations) may attain similar good luck enjoyed by rabbits and those compatible with them.

Road Block!

2011-01-31T16:24:00.002-06:00

The US Consulate in Guangzhou denied my application for a Consulate Appointment (CA) because my fingerprints "expire" this week. I sent in my application for my free renewal of my I-600a on the 17th, but I haven't gotten my invitation to get fingerprinted (again, for the 4th time this adoption!).

My homestudy agency gave me a phone number to call which I did today. So now I have my SIM number and she said tomorrow it would be in the system with a date to get fingerprinted. Someone else using my agency got my travel date of March 10th, so I don't know if I've missed out or if I can still travel then if my fingerprints get taken in the next week or so. If I did, then I have to get a new or extend my travel approval (TA) because March 10th was the latest date I could travel under my current TA. There's always something! I wouldn't mind waiting 2 more weeks because it would be my girls' spring break and they wouldn't miss as much school. They wouldn't be thrilled about that though. So stay tuned...

Questions Answered!!

2011-01-24T07:28:00.000-06:00

1. Who chose her name and why?
Qian is the name given to all children that entered the orphanage in 2006
Yu = Universe
Xi = West or Western
They gave her the name because they wanted her to have a world view

2. Has she had any health problems or allergies?
Only her eye issues (lazy eye, needs glasses)

3. What medical treatments has she received?
They had her doing eye therapy such as stringing beads. But she wasn't cooperative perhaps because of her age, so now they just have her rest when she needs to.

4. What are her favorite foods and activities?
She likes hamburgers and french fries.
She likes to play with cars/trucks and dolls.

5. How would you describe her personality?
She's an active and outgoing child. Her's was a successful case for the fostered child. She came back to the orphanage last November, and it took her awhile to get used to it here. So far, the teacher thinks that she tends to be quiet when she's in a new environment but becomes more active when she gets used to it with friends. She gets along with the group and also would lead other children in playing.

6. Does she have likes/dislikes/sensitivities?
There's nothing that she doesn't like. But she did mention that she doesn't like vegetables. It could be the way that the veggies are prepared wasn't as the way it was cooked in her foster family.

7. What makes her happy?
She loves to play with her friends.

8. Is she close to a particular nanny? What is the nanny's name?
She likes her foster mom the most.

9. Was a note or any other memento found with her?
There was a note on her when she was found.

10. Do you have her finding ad? Can we have a copy?
All the children will receive a copy of their "Note of finding parents" and also we'll provide the copy of the note that was with her when she was found.

11. What else would you like to tell us about her?
There's nothing particular that jumps out.

12. Does the orphanage need anything in particular?
There's nothing special that we need but we do welcome all sorts of baby/toddler items.

New Information!!!

2011-01-21T08:22:00.002-06:00

She's 44" tall and weighs 39.7 lbs.

Other measurements:
Head - 20.1"

Chest - 21.7"

Foot - 6.69"

She's on the upper limit of size 4 clothes, so I'll bring size 5.

Looks like size 11 shoes.

More Progress

2011-01-21T07:28:00.001-06:00

The girls' passports came back and my updated homestudy has been sent off to CIS. So now I wait for my updated I-171H. Once that comes back, I can get my consulate appointment and travel can fall into place.

Another Update

2011-01-14T07:36:00.000-06:00

The girls passports came yesterday - whoohoo!! I'll try to get the Visa applications filled out this weekend and send them to a courier to get completed.

I think I'm getting closer to the I171-H renewal as my homestudy agency sent me an email with a form to complete to request the renewal.

I also heard from Blessed Kids. The orphanage wants to give me the camera when I pick up Amanda, but they sent them 2 recent photos, updated measurements, and the answers to the basic questions. I'm waiting to hear back from them on the cost to get these from them. I'm on pins and needles, but it looks like I won't get it until next week.

So I'm slowly progressing here. I need to start finding luggage and start planning what to bring pretty soon so it isn't a last minute panick.

Package delivered to Shanghai!

2011-01-05T07:54:00.000-06:00

I got an email this morning from Adele at Blessed Kids saying my package got delivered to Amanda's orphanage last Thursday, December 30! I have no idea whether Amanda is still in foster care or if they sent her back to the orphanage pending our arrival, but at least the package got delivered to someone who can get it to her. They will call later this week to see if they can get the camera with pictures. Exciting!

Thinking about Amanda and Starting to get excited!

2011-01-04T12:00:00.002-06:00

Today I've been looking through my links to other families blogs. I really need to delete the links that no longer work and update others. It's sad that so many people we started with and have not gone another route have pretty much given up hope. No one is posting on our yahoo groups. Very few are updating blogs on a regular basis. Many of us are on Facebook, but only make fleeting references to still waiting. I know in another year, those still waiting will be just a small fraction of those who started out. Who would have thought...

Also, I watched a gotcha video from someone who just met their daughter in Shanghai. I need my girls to watch it, too. That time will be difficult for Amanda. The little girl in the video reminded me of the moment I had to leave Jessica (with my mom) when I left for the airport to get Anna. She came in waving, but was also waving goodbye, like nice to meet you, but I'm going back home now. I need to try to remain calm at that moment. And I need to remember to bring a toy or two and food. I also need to try to remember to sit down so we're on the same level.

I ordered a camera, panda bear, and pillow with our photos on it package from Blessed Kids. I think it is supposed to be sent out this week. I also asked them to see if they could get them to take pictures and send them back to us now so we can get updated photos. I sure hope they can do that. I'll keep you posted.

So much to do, so little time. One family posted that they got their TA today and are traveling next week! Same agency as me. I hope we travel at least the Beijing and Guangzhou portion with a group. If we do, that group hasn't even received TA yet.

Anyway, just thinking about Amanda a lot today. I'm starting to get excited although I still have so much to do between now and then. The girls are in a dance production in 3 weeks which will take up our next 3 weekends. Girl Scout cookie season is starting - as "Cookie Mom" to Anna's troop, I have cookie training tonight, and our mandatory 48 hour work week starts on Sunday until the week I leave for China. I'll crash on the plane I think. Maybe once the dance production is done, we can start getting our luggage and packing started. It'll come fast I'm sure. In the meantime, I'm waiting for the girl's updated passports, and my Adam Walsh clearance so I can get my I171H updated. I also need to figure out what to do with my pets while we're gone. Maybe I can get a couple of friends to alternate coming over. That'll wait though. I'm still worrying about finances although I'm up to about $14k available in my 401k - enough to get me there and back, but not necessarily both my girls as well.

Update

2010-12-27T07:19:00.000-06:00

Hope everyone had a wonderful holiday!

I've had my homestudy update and requested another Adam Walsh clearance. Once I get that, I can apply for fingerprints and an I171-H extension.

I need to bring my girls in person someplace to renew their passports so I'll do that Thursday since I have off of work. I tried bringing them to the post office a week ago Saturday, but there was a big sign that said they only do passports Monday-Friday from 9-3. Once we get all passports back, we'll apply for Visa's. I need to find a courier service for that. My agency does it but I think a courier service would be less expensive.

I ordered a camera package with a panda bear, letter, camera, candies, pictures of us, and a pillow with our pictures on it to be delivered to the orphanage in Shanghai. Hopefully it will find it's way to Amanda. I asked for them to see if they can get the camera back so we can get some updated pictures, but I'll just have to wait to see if they can. I used Blessed Kids for this.

Santa brought a couple gifts to our house for Amanda. Hopefully he brought some to her in Shanghai as well.

I'm moving into Dance production season, girl scout cookie season, and busy season (also known as mandatory 48 hour work weeks) in a couple weeks. So I'll be very busy. I'm sure the time will fly by and I'll be going crazy trying to get everything done.

March 10th, 2011

2010-12-13T14:45:00.001-06:00

Looks like we'll shoot for departing for China on this day! Woohoo!!!

TA - Travel Approval Received!

2010-12-13T14:07:00.000-06:00

Back to freaking out!

My work wants me to wait until after our horrendously busy season due to 2 people (out of only 42 employees) retiring in October and December, and them not being replaced yet. What do I do?!?! I don't want to leave Amanda any longer than I have to, but it would be better for me to wait until March. Ack! Stay tuned!

Talk About Fast.

2010-11-29T08:15:00.000-06:00

I sent my passport renewal application on November 15th and I got it back already! The date on it is November 19th. A few days turnaround. Wow!

Anyway, now I'm finally getting anxious for my TA (travel approval) to come so I can get my consulate appointment and know when I'm going to travel.

I decorated my Christmas tree early this year - usually I wait until after my birthday on the 2nd, but decided with the long weekend to do it early. It was fun to hang Amanda's stocking this year even though there was some jealousy over the tassle she had on her's and the patterns that could be seen in Jessica's and the multiple colors in mine.

Today Marks Month 48

2010-11-22T08:30:00.000-06:00

But I'm not longer waiting for a referral, I'm waiting for Travel Approval (TA), and then I can set the time for travel. It will be in February since I can't go in December or January. It's still all so surreal to me. One day I can't wait to go get her and check sites to see the cost of airfare the end of December, and then other days I wonder how I'll ever pay for it all and if I'm doing the right thing for our family. It costs a lot more than it did 9 years ago, plus I feel I need to bring Jessica and Anna with me which adds a lot to the cost. They've waited as long as I have, and I just don't think they'd forgive me for not bringing them along. I promised after all that I'd take them and they've told all their friends. But that was before the ecomony tanked and I actually had a savings account. I trust and pray that it will all work out as it should. Somehow I'll figure it all out.

Freaking Out Right Now

2010-11-15T13:12:00.002-06:00

You'd think after waiting nearly 4 years from LID (I hit that landmark next Monday), that I'd be a little more prepared to move to the travel planning stage. Well, I'm not and I'm freaking out a little, okay, make that a lot here!

I had 3 major life events happen within a span of 4 days from October 16-October 20. I moved, my mom passed away (very unexpectedly), and I got my referral. I've finally finished moving, but still have to unpack. My mom's stuff is taken care of for the most part, but I'm still in shock. And now I'm getting travel prep stuff from my agency.

I still have to finish 3 more Hague training credits (I've kept my I-600a up-to-date, but the agency asks for it anyway). I'm sending my passport renewal application off today. I still need to work on my girls' who's also expired. My fingerprints will expire before I travel in February. I need to update my homestudy for my new address. I'm just not ready.

I know I freaked out a little with my other girl's trips, but I was at least emotionally ready for this. I still have to deal with Thanksgiving, my birthday, December 2nd, Christmas, New Year's, Chinese New Year, my girls dance production that will take up all of my January weekends.

Where's the money going to come from and how soon will I need it?! The longer I keep it in my 401k plan, the more I'll have available. Yikes!!

Okay, I feel better just venting. And one of my coworkers who's privy to my life came over and let me vent as well, so I feel better.

Introducing Amanda Li Kasper

2010-10-21T22:13:00.004-05:00

Here she is! Qian Yu Xi is 4 1/2 years old and in foster care in Shanghai. Birthday is March 10, 2006. I probably won't travel until February to get her. I still can't believe she's finally real!!

Stay Tuned...

2010-10-07T07:13:00.000-05:00

Keep your fingers crossed or say a little prayer that things work out the way they are supposed to.

Woohoo on Referrals!

2010-09-30T08:14:00.000-05:00

My agency got 2 groups of LID's in this referral batch. Only 3 days included in the batch, but I consider it progress.

46 Months

2010-09-22T08:25:00.000-05:00

I really can't believe I'm approaching the 4 year mark and there's still no end in sight. I think to stay on the NSN track, I'm going to be looking at a 6 year wait at this point. I can't even imagine the wait for those behind me in line. Maybe my agency will bring back good news from China.

Then again, maybe not. I've got other things going on right now, so it's not the best time. But if the right child comes around, I'm not going to say no.

Sorry I haven't posted

2010-09-16T11:12:00.004-05:00

Wow, I didn't realize I haven't posted since July! I totally missed month 45 of waiting. Lots going on including school starting.

8 Years Ago

2010-07-23T12:53:00.000-05:00

8 years ago in Wuhan, Hubei, China, I adopted Anna. I can't believe it's been 8 years already. She just turned 9 and is already growing into a young lady. Very independent, very capable, and very girly. I always say that Jessica made me a mom, and Anna made us a family. Happy Family Day to us!

44 Months

2010-07-22T12:51:00.000-05:00

43 Months and STILL Waiting

2010-06-22T07:35:00.003-05:00

with no end in sight! It's hard to still be waiting. I look at the Waiting Children and hope and pray. I hope each month that CCAA will include more days than everyone thought they would, but they don't. Sometimes I wonder why I still wait. I know the answer: because I still believe it will happen. Because my girls still want a sister. Hopefully someday before we quit caring...

42 Months - 3 1/2 Years of Waiting

2010-05-22T06:56:00.000-05:00

41 Months Down

2010-04-22T08:46:00.000-05:00

It's been 41 months since my original log-in date. There's still no end in sight. I did look at a waiting child's file. She was cuter than all get-out, but her needs were more than I could provide for. My girls are getting very anxious for a sister. Wish I knew what to say to them other than it's in China's hands and we don't know how long it will take.

Family Day - 10 Years Ago Today

2010-04-17T18:53:00.003-05:00

10 years ago today I became a mom. A group of 6 families boarded a plane in Beijing and flew to Chongqing, China so full of anticipation and maybe a little fear, too. We were met at the airport with 2 buses. One took our luggage to the hotel and the other took our group to the Civil Affairs office to meet and adopt our children. I remember walking in and seeing the babies with their nannies. Once I picked up Jessica, the rest of the world stood still and it was just us. She was everything I'd dreamed of and more. The most beautiful baby in the world. Wow, I can't believe it's been 10 years now. I remember it like it was yesterday, yet at the time it was all a blur. Here's a picture of us from the first minute we met, and another from this afternoon.

I'm so grateful to all those that helped along the way. I'm so blessed to have such a supportive family. And the great friends I have today, I would never have met had I not started on this journey called adoption. Thank you to those that took care of my daughter her first 9 months. Thank you to her birth family who gave her life and who had to make difficult decisions that eventually led my daughter to me and me to her. I so wish you could see what a wonderful young lady she is becoming.

Helping Out - Friends Fundraisers

2010-04-07T13:34:00.001-05:00

I've added a link list on my blog in the upper right to list fundraisers for families I know who are waiting and working towards bringing their child home. If you'd like me to list yours, please email me at chinamom.2@q.com

Forgot 40 LID-iversary & CCAA Change

2010-04-05T12:55:00.001-05:00

I totally missed my 40th LID-iversary on March 22nd. I'm not sure if that's good or bad. I guess I've just been busy.

And from the Rumor Queen site:

Apparently the CCAA is about to change from the China Center of Adoptive Affairs to the China Child Welfare Center (CCWC), responsible for protecting the welfare of all children – particularly orphans, children with disabilities and serious illnesses, children of migrant workers, single parent households, and families living in poverty.

No idea how that will affect referrals. I guess time will tell. Looks like my agency might get skipped in referrals this month. Wahhh!

39 Month LID-iversary

2010-02-22T19:20:00.000-06:00

Dreams

2010-02-16T08:01:00.000-06:00

When Anna woke up this morning, she said that she had a really long dream about Amanda. And she said "Amanda is 4 years old." I wonder...

Reflecting

2010-02-15T07:54:00.003-06:00

11 years ago around this time of year (right before Valentine's Day) I started to believe I'd really be able to adopt from China some day. I bought a couple of size 9 month outfits and hung them on my bedroom door knob so I could look at them every day. It was a only a few weeks later, March 2nd, 2009 that I finally started the process and sent my application in to adopt my first daughter. I had researched, prayed, and dreamed about it for a good 3 1/2 years before then. I'm so luckly that I was able to adopt not just my Jessica, but also Anna. Now I also wait for Amanda. I still hope, pray, and believe that one day, she will finally come home.

Who would have ever thought that over 3 years after having my dossier logged in in China, that I would still be waiting?! The excitement was so great in the beginning. I moderate not only the November LID group, but also the October. We were doing swaps and all kinds of really fun activities. But the wait has dragged on. No one is talking on our groups. Many have switched to special needs and have been home with their children a long time. Several have switched countries. Several have decided to pull their dossiers. Someone posted yesterday that they decided to pull their dossier and I am so sad for them. I know it was a very difficult decision. In many ways, I understand it. But I am so sad that the child they dreamed about for 3 1/2 years give or take will never join their family.

Life had changed so much for all of the families waiting. Sometimes I wish those of us still waiting were talking more. I pull up their blogs and so many have not posted for months on end. But I understand. What is there to say? There is no light at the end of the tunnel. Other than CCAA is referring 2006 dossiers and ours is 2006 and not 2007, 2008, 2009 or 2010. I do believe for those of us who hang in there, there will be a baby/child some day. We just don't know how long we'll have to hang in there. I know my life is much different than it was 3 1/2 years ago. But the decisions I am making are for the good of my family and because no matter what I propose to my girls, they still want Amanda over almost anything else I've asked them "what if?"

For those who are home with their children - congratulations! We are all truly happy for you, it's just difficult sometimes to know you found joy and we're still waiting. For those waiting, I'm right there with you. I realize I'm one of the lucky ones who already has 2 wonderful daughters from China. But I also remember the ache of wanting my first, Jessica. I ached for Anna and I ache for Amanda as well. It's not quite the same as the first ache, I know that and I so feel for you. I do have faith that we will all someday get our children. I just long for the days when we think 7 or even 13 months is forever (like I did when I was waiting for Jessica and Anna).

So there you go. I guess seeing Lisa pull out got me to thinking. I pray that well all find peace in our decisions and that the children waiting in China and around the world for their forever families find their families.

Gong Xi Fa Cai!!

2010-02-14T10:50:00.000-06:00

Happy Year of the Tiger!!

Here is the forecast for my sign for this year:

The Pig
The Pig is an innocent, sweet and lovable personality. They can also be quite melancholy and over-sensitive. The Pig loves the company of others, and adores parties, gossip and chit chat. They are highly intelligent, but prefer to keep this side of their nature under wraps. The Pig does not care that much for money, but is one of the zodiac signs that is very lucky.

Forecast for 2010

The Pig loves activity and challenges and the Year of the Tiger will certainly provide this. There may be additional financial pressure on the Pig this year, but with prudent spending and consideration, this need not be a problem. The Pig is an open, friendly soul and very trusting, but this year he must be wary. It’s possible that gossip may prove too tempting or that he may listen to false advice, causing upset and trouble. Be guarded and careful this year! The Pig must ensure that he follows up all correspondence or financial dealings – to delay or overlook details will prove costly. Short, fun, unplanned trips will feature throughout the year and will be excellent for off-setting any stresses and pressure the Year of the Tiger may bring. Interest in spirituality and self-development will be to the fore and any opportunity to study and explore these should be taken. November to January will provide excellent opportunites for changing career direction or to find a new job. August to December will prove particularly social, with many fun occasions and opportunities to make new friends.

Interesting Pig Facts

Zodiac Stone: Ruby

Special Flower: Chrysanthemum

Best Hours: 9-11 pm

Season: Autumn

Horoscope Colors: Purple, Red, White

38 Months

2010-01-22T08:56:00.003-06:00

Between trying to clean and organize, extra working hours, the girls big dance production this weekend, and girl scout cookies we've been pretty busy. Today marks the 38 month LID'iversary. I suspect I'll be posting a lot more LID'iversaries. Amanda is always in our thought though no matter how busy we are.

37 Month LID-iversary

2009-12-22T18:25:00.000-06:00

I'm not sure why I bother. Maybe just to feel like I'm making progress.

T-Shirt Fundraiser for a Family I know

2009-12-21T07:52:00.002-06:00

Here are some nice t-shirts a family I know is selling as a fundraiser. They are hoping to travel by summer to bring home their 12 year old daughter.
http://www.adoptionbug.com/bringingErinhome/
http://www.thewildbarrettfamily.blogspot.com

March, 2006 is Done!

2009-12-02T09:15:00.000-06:00

The CCAA has finished the placement of children for the families whose adoption application documents were LID before March 31, 2006.

Finally done with March, 2006. It only took all of 2009. But at least now we can move on.

Oh, and it's my birthday today. Age is only a number, right?

3 Years LID-iversary.

2009-11-22T10:05:00.001-06:00

Okay, it's now been 3 years, 36 months, since my dossier was logged in at CCAA. Instead of talking about how hard it is to wait so long and have no end in sight, I'm going to go with a Thankfulness Challenge like many are doing on Facebook.

I'm thankful for:

1. the many friends I've met and keep me going who have also waited 3 years give or take. I couldn't still be sane without you.

2. the many friends I have because I decided to adopt from China and/or decided to become a single mom. Most of my best friends I didn't know at all 10 or so years ago.

3. the opportunities for my children like the Chinese Dance Theater.

4. the flexibility and closeness of my work so that I can attend school functions if I want and so that my kids can finally go without daycare after school.

5. CCAA for matching me with the most wonderful daughters I could ever have dreamed for, and for giving me the chance to adopt another some day.

6. GWCA for giving me a single's slot when I was ready and for helping me get Jessica and Anna as well.

7. God for making miracles come true and for guiding my life even when I wonder why I have to put up with certain things.

8. my family: mom, brothers, sisters, nieces, nephews, for being supportive.

9. the internet and yahoo groups and blogs for helping during the waits for my children.

10. my children, who are the biggest blessing of all. I don't know where my life would be without them.

Christmas Music Already!

2009-11-16T17:43:00.000-06:00

They're playing all Christmas music on the radio station I normally listen to at work. Don't know if I can handle that so soon. It's actually nice here for November 16th. 49 degrees and sunny.

It's been a rough couple of months. I feel a little better today after deciding to clear the air and find out where I stand here at work.

I'm totally addicted to my Facebook games. At least it's calming. Knitting is too. Anyone have any ideas for something really easy to make to give as gifts?

Other than that, not much new to report.

Fingerprinted - Again!

2009-11-03T22:06:00.000-06:00

I got my fingerprints done for the 3rd time. They said mine had worn away probably from working with computers and paper! At least they got them.

35 Months

2009-10-22T07:40:00.001-05:00

and still waiting... with no light at the end of the tunnel to guide my way or know when it will end... but I wait...

Better Late Than Never

2009-10-07T12:35:00.001-05:00

I mailed my application to grandfather my I-171H to U.S. Citizenship & Immigration today. I think it expires on Sunday. I hope I'm not too late...

This gives me another 3 years before I have to pay again.

34 Months!

2009-09-22T07:52:00.000-05:00

Paperwork Update

2009-09-18T14:46:00.000-05:00

So after thinking about it for the last 2 months, I decided I'd better renew my BCIS approval under the I600a application rather than let it expire and go under the I800. I hope I'm not too late as my I171H expires next month. So I went and got fingerprints taken by my local police department for the Adam Walsh Clearance. Then I hand delived them to my homestudy agency. I also gave them the letters/forms from my and my girls' doctors saying we are healthy and free of communicable diseases. I still need to get another employment verification letter and financial statement before having an updated homestudy done. I guess I now have a motivation to clean the house! I also need to send the I600a application with the check. I sure hope I don't have to do this again. I figure I'll have to take advantage of the free renewal again, but I don't want to have to wait another 3 years, which is when all of that would expire. I know I'm not the only one doing this, but it sure would be nice to have a definitive answer as to whether it's absolutely best to renew.

A Poem From Jessica

2009-08-26T12:36:00.000-05:00

I give you warm hugs from a few miles away to make you feel better through stressful times. And when it's stormy and I'm out side always know that I'm safe with an angel over our heads making sure we are safe. I know you may think this is weird but heres to hearts filled with love from your two favorite daughters.
-- Jessica

Had a Really Fun Camping Trip!

2009-08-24T07:58:00.000-05:00

Loved this spot. It reminded me of the place we used to go camping at almost every summer when I was a kid. Nice private spots. The outhouse was cleaner and well lit and not in the woods. The water was from a spiget and not a pump. But we all really enjoyed this place and plan to go back again next year. Here are some photos:

33 Months

2009-08-22T09:49:00.000-05:00

and not really counting. By my non-scientific calculation, I am set to get a referral in November, 2011. That would be 5 years from my Log-In Date. That's another 2 years. Jessica would be in 7th grade, and Anna would be in 5th grade. I want to wait it out, I really do. I believe in miracles! But right now I don't have the funds to renew my I-171H, which I have to do in the next 1.5 months, and am debating letting it expire and going under the new I-800. If anyone has a money tree growing in their back yard that they can share the crop from, or has strong feelings as to why I should do everything in my power not to let it expire, I think I have no other choice. The summer daycare/camp expenses have gotten the better of me. The good thing with that is, summer is almost over (the girls start school next week on Tuesday) and the girls are needing less daycare now.

CDC rules that Scruggs family must leave adopted daughter in China

2009-08-10T13:37:00.003-05:00

click on article title to view article:
CDC rules that Scruggs family must leave adopted daughter in China

Posted using ShareThis

Month 32, and Referrals

2009-07-22T08:00:00.002-05:00

Referrals came in yesterday for LID's of March 21 & March 22, 2006. I expected only 2-3 days by looking at my agency's list of LID's. CCAA seems to only do one batch per month, so I expect it will take at least 3 more months to finish up March, 2006. I wonder if things will speed up a little after that. I guess only time will tell.

And today is my 32nd LID-iversary. No end in sight. I'm now looking into renewing my I-600a application as my approval expires in October. I sent an email to my homestudy agency yesterday afternoon to find out what I need to do other than send in the application with more money. I figure I'll need to use the free extension after this one expires in April, 2011, but I hope I will get my referral before the free extension expires in October, 2012.

We Leave For Vacation Saturday

2009-07-09T07:15:00.000-05:00

We are leaving for the Black Hills in South Dakota on Saturday. We're renting a lodge with 4 other moms and their kids. The girls are so excited they packed on Monday. I'm slowly getting ready, but would love to jump in the car and leave now. We'll be seeing all the main things: Mount Rushmore, Custer State Park, Crazy Horse, Bear Country, Deadwood, and maybe riding a train. Jessica wants to pan for gold, so we'll work that in as well. It'll be really nice to get away and hopefully relax.

Adoption Forecast and It's Jessica's Birthday!!!

2009-07-07T07:34:00.000-05:00

Our prediction for LID 2006-11-22
China has 247 days of dossiers to be processed before they get to your dossier. China currently processes about 4.1 days of dossiers each month.
Our best guess: 2014-04-24

Jessica would be almost 15 and Anna 13. Holy Cow!

So with 247 days ahead of me, here's a look at roughly how long I will wait if the average number of dossiers processed each month is:

6 - 41 months
7 - 35 months
8 - 31 months
9 - 27 months
10 -25 months
11 -22 months
12 -20 months
13 -19 months
14 -18 months
15 - 16 months

I don't dare go with a higher average since even a 7 or 8 day batch is rare. So if CCAA could get to referring a half a month at a time, I'd get a referral by November next year. A 4 year wait. Right now that looks unlikely, but then again, March is a HUGE month and it looks like numbers drop off a lot after that.

Hey, and today Jessica turns 10. Double digits! Wow, where does the time go?!